The ketubah for same-sex weddings
The ketubah is a powerful document, signifying the love and commitment between two people. Because of this, it has become a very popular tradition with gay and lesbian couples — a way to proudly celebrate their marriage as more and more states finally recognize this basic human right.
choosing the art for a same-sex ketubah
I offer a wide range of modern nature-themed ketubah designs. Since they avoid any religious-specific symbolism, my ketubah designs are very appropriate for gay or lesbian couples who aren't Jewish, but still love the idea of having a ketubah in their wedding.
choosing the text for a same-sex ketubah
There are many options! I have written some texts specifically for gay and lesbian couples, that avoid gender-specific terms (like bride and groom) and recognize some of the values of same-sex marriage.
- For the English text: I offer a number of texts that were written specifically for same-sex weddings (named Commitment 1, Commitment 2, Commitment 3, Foundation Covenant 1 and Foundation Covenant 2). Or if you prefer the language of any of my other English texts, I'd be happy to remove any gender-specific words like "bride" and "groom", free of charge.
- For the Hebrew text: The "Commitment Hebrew" text is based on the traditional language used in Reform ceremonies, replacing the words "bride" and "groom" with the Hebrew word for "partner". Or, you could have a Hebrew translation of any of my English texts, for which I'd remove the gender-specific words for free.
The last thing you need to do is make sure that the lines where you sign the ketubah are labeled correctly: for example, using Bride/Bride, Groom/Groom, Parnter/Partner, or Beloved/Beloved.
The Foundation Covenant
In 2009, wedding planner Bernadette Smith and celebrant Cindy Matchett approached me to help them create a new tradition for same-sex weddings: the Foundation Covenant. The Foundation Covenant is inspired by the tradition of the ketubah and the Quaker wedding certificate, and it is signed not only by the couple, but by everyone attending the ceremony, respecting the commitment and support of the couples' friends and community. The artwork is printed on a large sheet of paper, leaving plenty of room for everyone to sign. On my order form, this option is in the "Signatures" section at the bottom. You can learn more about how the Foundation Covenant integrates into a same-sex wedding ceremony on Bernadette's blog.