The ketubah for same-sex weddings

The ketubah is a lasting and powerful document, signifying the love and commitment between two people. This makes it a very popular tradition with gay and lesbian couples who are getting married or having a commitment ceremony. There are two ways a same-sex couple can create a ketubah:


The Foundation Covenant is signed by all guests at the wedding.

How to create a same-sex ketubah

So You're EnGAYgedThe modern nature-theme artwork used in ketubah designs makes them perfectly-suited for a same-sex ketubah. All you need to do is select the text you want, and select sure that the lines were you sign the ketubah are labeled correctly (for example: Bride/Bride, Groom/Groom, Parnter/Partner, or Beloved/Beloved).

The last thing you need to do is make sure that the lines where you sign the ketubah are labeled correctly: for example, using Bride/Bride, Groom/Groom, Parnter/Partner, or Beloved/Beloved.

How to create a Foundation Covenant

In 2009, wedding planner Bernadette Smith and celebrant Cindy Matchett approached me to help them create a new tradition for same-sex weddings: the Foundation Covenant. The Foundation Covenant is inspired by the tradition of the ketubah and the Quaker wedding certificate, and it is signed not only by the couple, but by everyone attending the ceremony. You can learn more about how the Foundation Covenant integrates into a same-sex wedding ceremony on Bernadette's blog.

At its heart, the Foundation Covenant is a ketubah with a few significant changes.

To get started, select the design for your Foundation Covenant, or contact me if you'd like to talk more about your options.